ok yeah, I thought about that as well, but when jumping it there is no problem to jump the power. I even tried taking the fuse block off to get to the wiring connectors but it was getting a little tricky so I stopped. However, as I said, the terminals jump no problem.
Here's another strange thing. on the relay terminal 30 and 87 is the switch and 85 and 86 is the control with the electromagnet that pulls the lever over to connect 30 and 87. If I probe the terminal 85 that connects to the pcm (terminal 55 on the pcm) without the relay in I get around 4 volts. But If I plug the relay in where I can get a test lead on that leg of the relay it now reads 12 volts.
So, I'm getting;
1) 12v to the always hot,
2) 12v to the hot with key on,
3) 12v to the control to pcm,
4) but the power is not reaching the terminal that connects to the compressor clutch. This seems like a relay issue but I've tried tested good relays and still nothing. I tried wiggling the relay while it was plugged in, in case there was a worn female terminal like you suggested but nothing. I am scheduled to take it to a shop Monday but I'd rather not because they always rake me over the coals but if I can't figure it out then I guess I need to. Do you have any other suggestions? Is there anything with the terminal 55 on the pcm
(relay control) reading 4 volts when relay is not plugged in and reading 12v when its plugged in? Thanks so much for your time thus far.